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Love wins and chaos ensues

We all knew it was coming, yet U.S. District Judge Barbara Crabb’s ruling against Wisconsin’s same-sex marriage ban sent many of us into a flutter of activity that bordered on chaos — blissful chaos, but chaos nonetheless.

Quick! Leave work early! Get down to the courthouse! Bring your ID, some money for the license! Do you have the rings? Pick up the kids! Call mom and dad! Oh my God, it’s really happening! Hurry!

What a delight that the ruling came down on the day PrideFest opened in Milwaukee. For years, PrideFest has been hosting mass commitment ceremonies for devoted same-sex couples. If the ruling stands, it looks like it will be able to host the “real thing” from now on.

Kudos to the many couples whose joy and surprise were captured by TV news teams across the state and seen in millions of homes. Some couples managed to make lucid statements about what marriage meant to them and their families. Others just dissolved into tears. Either way, it was perfect. The genuine emotion was contagious. Only those with frozen hearts could fail to be moved.

Mainstream news coverage was positive, despite the obligatory sound bites from fundamentalist types who predicted the country’s moral demise. Some reporters seemed stirred by the emotions and conveyed that vividly through their coverage.

How about the men and women who spontaneously came forward to serve as witnesses? Some of them were as thrilled as the married couples to be a part of history in the making. Thanks too to those, especially the kids, who showed up with supportive signs bearing the slogan of the day, “Love Wins.” As a lefty, I’ve been a part of way too many demos with unwieldy chants and slogans. “Love Wins” is definitely a winner.

There weren’t too many anti-gay protesters waving banners, and those who showed up were outnumbered and outshone by the happy couples and family members. It was mostly online, where posters can remain anonymous, that the nastiest comments appeared. Anti-gay zealots sure have a creepy obsession with “disgusting sex acts.” The posts almost all used this same phrase, as if they were parroting a particular preacher.

I didn’t post this because I’m sure it would perplex their itty-bitty brains, but I found a great line from Shakespeare’s King Lear to answer their hate: “Wisdom and goodness to the vile seem vile; filths savor but themselves.” 

I had to dash to the drugstore to find some wedding cards for my friends and, boy, was that an adventure. No offense to straight readers, but the selection of wedding cards, mostly aimed at heterosexual couples, seriously sucks. They were either solemn and religious or snickering and suggestive of wild wedding nights, nothing with the wit or flair most queers would expect. A little Googling for LGBT-themed greeting cards ensued, so I should be good to go for the future.

Amid all the excitement, my ex, a radical feminist anarcho-pagan, called and asked if I would marry her. “Are you insane?” I parried. “We spent 12 years together, the last two very rocky, and have since become good pals. Why ruin a good friendship?” 

That a radical dyke could be dazzled by marriage fever speaks to the inspiration — or the temporary insanity — of the moment. We must still await the final court ruling, but what a wild ride!

Students create homophobic ‘hate map’ of U.S.

Students at Humboldt State University have created a map of the United States that identifies the origins of homophobic hate terms used on Twitter.

The Geography of Hate project also identifies the locations that tweet the most racist messages.

According to the website, the group manually searched through over 150,000 Tweets for 10 hate speech terms that fall under homophobia, racism and disability hate. The data behind the map is based on every geocoded tweet in the US from June 2012 – April 2013, according to the researchers.

The map shows that the worst offenders using the word ‘fag’ include New Mexico, Texas, Kansas, Missouri, Kentucky, Ohio and Illinois. The word ‘dyke’ was most used in an offensive context in Oregon, Minnesota, Iowa and Kentucky.

aIn Wisconsin, the most offensive are was north of Green Bay.

Nebraska lesbian assaulted, attackers carved slurs into skin

Police in Lincoln, Neb., are investigating an alleged anti-lesbian assault in which three men broke into a woman’s home, tied her up, carved into her skin and set her house on fire.

A candlelight vigil for the woman, whose name has not been publicized, took place at the state Capitol on July 22, according to the Omaha World-Staff newspaper.

Outlinc, a Lincoln gay-rights organization, said in a statement over the weekend that board members have confidence in the police investigation.

Outlinc president Tyler Richard stated: “We are shocked and saddened by the report of an alleged hate crime involving a member of the LGBT community early Sunday morning. Our hearts go out the the victim, her family and close friends. Many in our community are understandably experiencing a great deal of sadness, anger and confusion. We look to our entire community to pull together in this difficult time. Outlinc has full faith in the Lincoln Police Department who has a long history of support for Lincoln’s LGBT community. We trust that their investigation will be fair and complete and we await the results. As we consider the possible impetus for this horrific attack we are reminded more than ever why fairness is vital in our city.”

The police responded to the woman’s home at about 4 a.m. July 22. She reported that men wearing ski masks had broken in and assaulted her.

When police arrived they found the home still on fire, which caused about $200 in damage.

Police declined to say what was carved into the woman’s stomach, but a friend of the victim’s said the words included “dyke” and “slut.”

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