Not everyone has the “fabulous” gene. For the mere mortal hosts among us, holiday party planning can whip up stress and anxiety: Is my house inviting? Do I have enough chairs? What about food?
If the thought of entertaining sends you to the nearest fainting couch, relax – we’ve compiled advice from some of the best party experts around.
Setting the mood
“Parties give us the chance to suspend what’s going on in our lives and give us space to be merry,” says Danielle Rollins, the Atlanta-based author of the new “Soiree: Entertaining with Style” (Rizzoli).
The best way to create that space, she says, is to build tradition into your party and make it something people can look forward to year after year. Decide on a theme or an anchor activity – gingerbread decorating, caroling, ugly holiday sweaters – and specify a dress code on the invitation.
“It’s fun to have an excuse to dress up,” Rollins says. “You’ll build excitement around the event if guests know what to expect.”
Decor should echo the theme and reinforce the style of party you want to have. But don’t feel you have to stick with a traditional holiday color palette or decorations. “Thanksgiving doesn’t have to mean orange and Christmas doesn’t have to mean red and green,” says Rollins.
Lyric Turner, the owner of Red House Staging and Interiors in Washington, D.C., suggests introducing a warm color palette – burgundy, chocolate brown and
purple – through accent pillows, throws or curtains to create a festive look in an unexpected way.
“If you are going to bring in red and green elements to your decorating, keep the rest of your space neutral. A cacophony of color is too much,” says Turner.
Setting the stage
Whether your party is large or small, deciding where to put the guests can be tricky. Many people make the mistake of removing all the furniture for a cocktail party, says Rollins, but it’s important to have places to sit.
“Your living space should be structured for conversation,” Turner says. She recommends creating seating clusters around the house. “Anywhere you have a little extra room – an entryway, an office – you can group a few chairs around a small table.”
Rollins emphasizes the need for tables and stools spread throughout the gathering spaces.
“Pretend you’re a drink,” she says. “Where will you go?”
Too much furniture, however, can feel claustrophobic.
“You’re adding a lot with holiday decor,” she adds. “If you’re not taking anything out, you’re just adding clutter.”
Setting the lights
The right lighting makes your home (and your guests) look their best. Our experts agreed that overhead lighting has no place at a party. That creates deep shadows that make guests’ faces look older. Instead, place lamps on multiple levels throughout your rooms, dim the lights and add candles wherever you can.
As a rule of thumb, the darker it is, the better your guests will look.
“Avoid candles by the bar and the buffet, though,” Rollins cautions. Even if your guests are flamers, you don’t want them going up in flames.
She also suggests skipping scented candles because they compete with the scent of the food.
And while lighting should be low in conversation areas, keep bathrooms and food areas better lit.
Setting the table
Food can make or break a party, but Rollins insists, “It’s not about what you’re serving, it’s how it’s displayed.”
For buffets, she suggests using smaller dishes and refilling them frequently.
Push the dining table against the wall to create more space for mingling around the food, Turner recommends.
And a signature cocktail adds a festive touch and can streamline bar mess and bar costs.
For dinner parties, Mindy Weiss, a Los Angeles-based party planner, suggests setting the table the evening before the party.
Personalized place cards are a thoughtful touch and can be tailored to any theme. “My guests were given ‘I’m thankful for’ nametags one Thanksgiving,” Rollins says. “As I made my toast, I said, ‘I am thankful for all of you gathered with me today to celebrate the blessings we have.’ And I asked each guest to reflect on what they were thankful for.”
It’s the small touches that really bring your party to the next level. Turner recommends wowing guests with a spa-like bathroom: “Remove all your junk and replace it with a sprig of pine, a candle, new hand soap and lotion.”
Provide a stack of rolled hand towels so guests don’t have to share the same (increasingly damp) towel, Turner suggests.
As for where to hang coats, Rollins recommends a rolling coat rack in a bedroom. “It’s so much nicer than just throwing them on the bed,” she says.
She also recommends being prepared for winter weather: “Keep salt and shovels on hand,” she cautions. “And make sure driveways and entryways are well lit.”
Above all, make guests feel welcome. Get the cleaning and chores out of the way before they get there, and “open your door to welcome your guests looking like you didn’t lift a finger all day,” Weiss says. “If you time things right, then you should be able to offer your guests a cocktail and conversation.”